As the saying goes, “you can’t please everyone.” Even though you know that it’s true, it doesn’t stop you from trying. It’s human nature to want others to like and accept you. And if they don’t, it hurts. Learning not to care about what other people think is a process. It doesn’t happen overnight. But once you realize that your opinion is the only one that truly matters, you’ll be on your way to living a happier, healthier life.
Here are nine reasons why you shouldn’t care if others dislike you:
1. Life Is Too Short
The reality is, you only have one life to live. In the grand scheme of things, we aren’t on this earth for very long, so we have to make it count. Constantly worrying about what others think will stop you from being truly happy and fulfilled.
2. People Don’t Really Think About You That Much
If you are convinced that everyone’s eyes are on you, it’s probably just your nerves or insecurities talking. It may sound harsh, but other people don’t think about you that much. Most people are too caught up in their own lives to care about others.
3. It’s None Of Their Business
If you want to get straight to the point, your life is no one else’s business. Life your life in a way that makes you happy and gives you peace. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but that doesn’t mean you should let someone else’s ignorance bring you down.
4. People Change Their Minds
It’s unrealistic to think that you will immediately vibe with everyone you meet. There are so many different people and personality types in this world. It’s important to understand that it’s OK if you don’t get off on the right foot with someone. After all, people change their minds all the time.
5. They Don’t Know What’s Best For You
You are the only person who is standing in your shoes. You make your own choices based on your experiences, so only you know what’s best for you. People love to share their opinions, but make sure you are making the right decisions for you and no one else.
6. You Have To Deal With The Consequences
Getting advice from friends or loved ones can help you through a difficult situation. But when it comes down to it, you are the one who has to live with the choices that you make. Feel free to consider your options, but don’t let someone else’s opinion make your decision for you.
7. What’s Right For Others Isn’t Always Right For You
If you constantly do what others tell you to do for fear that they won’t like or accept you, you’ll end up on a dangerous path. After a while, your life isn’t yours anymore. Somewhere along the line, you became someone else entirely when you stopped making decisions for yourself. Remember that what’s right for others isn’t always right for you.
8. Trying To Please Everyone Could Backfire
Nothing good can come from worrying too much about what other people thing. In fact, stressing over the opinions of others could cause others to dislike you. You end up becoming overly agreeable and submissive, and losing yourself in the process.
9. You Can’t Please Everyone
When it comes down to it, you know that it’s true: you can’t please everyone. Learning to live with this little piece of advice can help you facilitate a happier and healthier life for yourself.
Originally appeared on davidwolfe.com