Boundaries, Routines And Early Bedtimes: 13 Habits That Raise Well-Adjusted Kids

Parenting isn’t an easy task. If you aren’t careful, you will become too focused on only one aspect and allow the others to fall by the wayside.

As a parent of young kids, you have an opportunity to build the foundation that they desperately need. The foundation for things such as hard-work ethic, helpfulness, kindness, warmth, appreciation, responsibility, and generosity starts during the early years.

15 Parenting Techniques You Should Implement to Raise Happy and Well-Behaved Children:

  • Set boundaries for your children

You should have clear, defined limitations for your children. Your children want guidelines for their lives, which are reliably enforced. You’re the one that creates a safe environment for them. So, establishing healthy boundaries is a significant piece of parenting. It does not mean they will not push your boundaries, they will. It’s actually a part of their learning process. But, you should hold strong to these boundaries when your kids push back. It will help them learn to accept their boundaries and learn acceptance.

  • Set a daily routine for them

Even children who seem fine with whatever life throws at them can benefit from simple routines, such as always getting to read their favorite bedtime story or always eating dinner at a certain time. It will make them feel more relaxed and grounded as they have something to expect and look forward to.

  • Give them the responsibility of household chores

Children do not like doing chores because household tasks are boring. So, how can you get your kids do help around the house? It is very simple to do so; just do not use chores as punishment. For example, if your children misbehave and do something wrong, do not give them a consequence of doing the dishes. Do not let them drag their feet about doing household chores. Instead, be creative and find enjoyable and entertaining ways to engage them with the process.

Giving them the responsibility of household chores will teach them valuable attributes like responsibility, time management, self-reliance, diligence, and higher self-esteem.

  • Get them to bed early

Sleep is the foundation of growth and healing for your children, whether they are newborns, toddlers or school-age children. Getting them to bed early is one of the most significant things for their growth, development and well-being; and it’s the only way to keep things on schedule. It will help improve their sleep, behavioral regulation, language development, and positive family function.

  • Do not be too strict with them

Playing the part of the controlling or strict parent may have long-term negative consequences on their mental and physical health. So, you shouldn’t set strict limits on everything they do, yell at them, punish them or avoid communicating with them. Instead, set healthy boundaries, show them affection and openly communicate with them.

  • Praise them for their hard work

You should always praise them for their hard work. Whether it’s letting their siblings play with their blocks, helping set the table or finishing the homework, you should celebrate their success. Say something like, “You were so polite to say ‘thank you’ when your aunt gave you the present. Good job!” or “It is great that you remembered the rule to make your bed. I’m so proud of you!”

  • Do not immediately try to minimize their discomfort

Feeling a bit of guilt is a significant part of learning to determine right from wrong. For instance, if they feel bad when they have done something wrong, do not immediately try to minimize their discomfort. Instead, use it as a teaching opportunity and say something like, “I know you are now feeling bad and it is OK to make a mistake, because everyone makes mistakes. But, you should try to learn how to act next time.”

  • Do not underestimate the power of reading with them

When it comes to picking up a book and having story time with your children, there’s no such thing as beginning too early. Reading with your children (preschoolers) will encourage reading skills, language development, and future success in school. Even if they are still too young to understand everything you are saying, they will begin to notice the rhythms of language, build a listening vocabulary, speak and interact. Reading with them will also promote their brain development and help them emotionally. So, do not underestimate the power of reading with your kids!

  • Find the time to bond and have fun with them

Chances are you are busy every moment of the day. But, finding the time to bond with your children and have fun with them will have a long-lasting positive impact on their health and well-being. Playing with your kids is one of the best ways to bond with them and let them know that you love them. Therefore, find the time to connect with them through play.

  • Give them a number of hugs

Giving them a number of hugs throughout the day will help ease any tension they might be feeling and give them a sense of security. Hugging your children will also help improve their ability to concentrate, remember and learn new things. So, give them a number of hugs every single day.

  • Tell them how they feel

While older children are known to be the kings and queens of self-expression, young kids tend to lack the vocabulary to properly label their own emotions. Children aged 2-5 years old begin to understand emotions such as disappointment, frustration or fear.

So, you should help them express themselves by calling out such emotions when you see them. For instance, say something like, “It is disappointing that it is raining outside, and you cannot go out to play.” It will help you raise emotionally intelligent kids who are able to recognize and manage their own emotions and understand the emotional states of other people.

  • Be polite

Children learn how to interact with other people primarily by observing how their parents do it and modeling that behavior themselves. So, add the words “thank you” or “please” to your own vocabulary and treat everybody — from family members and teachers to bus drivers and cashiers — with politeness and respect.

  • Teach them how to empathize with other people

Empathy helps promote moral courage, kindness, and pro-social behaviors, and it’s an effective antidote to racism, prejudice, aggression, and bullying. Encourage your kids to perform small acts of kindness to build empathy. Encourage them to be considerate of other people’s feelings and treat others fairly and well.

  • Take them outdoors every single day

Taking your kids outdoors on a daily basis (where they spend hours climbing trees, fording streams, building forts, and playing in local parks) will help them learn to interact with their peers, increase their physical activity, and improve their creativity and emotional stability. So, take them outdoors every single day.

  • Allow them to make their own decisions

Allow them to make choices as soon as they are old enough to understand. For instance, ask them, “Which snack do you want to take to school, an apple or a banana?” or “Do you want to wear your pink pajamas with Minnie Mouse or a blue nighty with Sophia?”

Allow them to have input in some of the minor decisions if you want them to realize their voices are heard, feel important and have higher self-esteem.

Written by Bugler