Women can do anything a man can do. They are heads of state, CEOs, run businesses, serve in the military, and even outnumber men in universities.
In spite of achievements in women’s rights, there is still one realm where women almost never take the initiative: dating.
Women attract and men chase is definitely wired into the human brain through millions of years of evolution. However, it’s perfectly fine for a woman to chase a guy.
In fact, “chasing” him can be as simple as being intentionally charming and flirtatious so that he gets the courage to ask you out!
But, no girl wants to be rejected. So, you want to see signs a guy wants you to chase him before you make a move, especially a bolder one. As a dating coach and a guy, I’ll share my unique perspective and show you the signs the man in your life wants you to make a move!
1. He’s Shy
A good friend of mine is handsome and charming with a good job. But, he’s also painfully shy. Women love him when they meet him, but they don’t get that chance because simply won’t reach out and talk to them.
I throw shyness out as a “sign” a guy wants you to chase him because if a man is introverted, he might like you, but have a hard time either pursuing you or letting you know how he feels. He almost certainly won’t make a bold move.
So, if you’re wanting to date a shy guy, you can take that as a strong sign that he’s going to move more slowly and be less likely to make a move. You might actually have to do some chasing.
2. Body Language
Guys can tell you a lot about their inner desires through their body language. This includes signs he wants you to chase him.
The eyes are a pretty good giveaway if a guy is attracted to you. Guys are very visual, so physical appearance plays a huge role when they decide if they are attracted to someone. However, when they judge a woman as attractive, they want to see more of her!
This is usually done through sustained eye contact or, more often, staring. I’m sure you’ve caught guys checking you out in the past. Keep an eye out for this with the guy you want to chase. If he’s checking you out often, it’s a good sign he likes you.
If he hides his staring well, then ask friends to watch when you’re near him. Maybe he checks out your butt when you’re walking away or stares at you when you aren’t looking.
Another good sign a guy is attracted to you and wants you to chase him is if he touches you. I’m not talking about that kind of touching, but obviously that’s a huge sign he likes you! For this section, however, I’m referring more to subtle touching.
Does he put his arm around you, give you shoulder rubs, or get close when you two talk or you show him your phone? If you’re sitting on the couch, do you cuddle up in some capacity or sit close even though there is plenty of room?
If he touches you or gets extra close to you, then he’s very comfortable with you and at the very least doesn’t find you off-putting. While it’s not a sure sign the guy wants you to chase him, it’s a very good one!
5. He’s “Happy” To See You
Since this site is rated PG-13, I’m going to assume you’re an adult and get this point. Guys have a telltale sign that they find you physically attractive. Sometimes you can see it, other times you can feel it. And, it’s outside of his conscious control for the most part.
So, if you think he has a comb in his pocket, he’s probably happy to see you. If you’ve noticed that phenomenon when he’s around you and it’s pretty consistent, then he definitely likes you.
Chase away! It’s not hard! Well, maybe it is. Sorry (not sorry) for that terrible joke…
If a guy is interested in you, but too shy or scared to chase you, then he could be waiting for you to make a move. If you pay attention, you’ll notice hints about his intentions.
These hints could be more blunt comments about how you two could be good together or how he finds you attractive. They also could be general comments about how he’d be open to dating a friend or that he likes one of his friends. Those are indirect ways of him telling you his feelings.
7. Time And Attention
Guys will give their best time and attention to girls they find attractive. If you’re looking for signs a guy wants you to chase him, look at the level of attention he gives you and the amount of his time.
If you can always count on him to hang out, he instantly responds to texts, and wants to spend his best and most quality time with you, then he clearly likes you as more than a friend. If you notice this, but he won’t reveal his real feelings out of fear or shyness, then you can confidently chase him knowing that he likes you
Go With Your Gut
A friend of mine once asked me if one of the guys she knew liked her. He fit all of the signs listed above and I just laughed and asked, “are you kidding me?”
She also laughed. Deep down she knew he liked her. She knew in her gut. But, for a variety of reasons she second guessed herself or denied it.
If you get a strong gut feeling that a guy finds you attractive, you are probably right. And, with that comes a gut feeling that you’d be successful (or not) chasing him. The key is to not overthink and second guess yourself. You just have to go with that gut feeling!
So, these signs should help you determine if a guy in your life wants you to pursue him. How you decide to “chase” him is up to you. However, you can at least move forward knowing that you’ll get your desired result!
Originally Published on thepopularman.com