Dating can be so annoying. You like a guy and it seems that he likes you. But, he won’t come out and be direct. Are you just friends? Does he want more? If only you could read the signs a guy likes you but is trying not to show it.
The games people play when dating can be extremely frustrating, especially when you want to know the truth so you can either commit or move on!
The good news is that even if a guy is playing hard to get or trying to hide his intentions, you can read the signs. This article will look at signs a guy likes you, but is trying to hide it. As a dating coach and a guy, here’s the inside scoop to get to the truth.
1.Body Language Signs
The guy you like might be holding back for various reasons. Perhaps he’s afraid of commitment. Or, maybe he’s playing games because he thinks it will make you like him more. Regardless, if he’s holding back his true feelings with his words, you can look to his body for answers.
The wonderful thing about body language is that most body language signs are given subconsciously. So, he might be trying to conceal his true thoughts with his words, but his body language tells the true story of his feelings. These next three indicators are great signs a guy likes you but is trying not to show it.
In general, open body language means openness to you. This means uncrossed arms, uncrossed legs, smiling, and being relaxed when he’s around you. The opposite would be crossed arms and legs and seeming boxed in and hunched over. Those are signs he’s uncomfortable around you.
Don’t plan the wedding just yet. This open posture isn’t necessarily a sign he likes you romantically, but it does mean he at least likes you on some level and is comfortable around you. It might just be “as friends” but openness is a great start to your quest to determine his true feelings.
3. Eye Contact
If we like something, we want to see more of it. So, if he’s giving you a lot of eye contact, it’s a good sign that he likes you. This can happen in two ways.
First, see if he stares at you. If you catch him staring when he thinks you aren’t looking, especially “checking you out,” then he’s admiring your looks.
Since guys base their initial attraction to women largely on physical attraction, this is a good sign he finds you pretty. If you can’t catch him, ask a friend to watch him when you walk away.
Second, if he makes eye contact with you when you talk, it means he is engaged in your conversations. Look carefully at his pupils. Dilated (large) pupils (the black part of the eye) in normal light are a sign that he likes you.
Since he can’t consciously control pupil size, dilated pupils can be a great indicator of attraction. Constricted (small) pupils in normal light indicate less attraction. However, pupils get large in darkness and constricted in brightness. If you use this method, make sure to take the light conditions into consideration.
As a general rule, we get close to what we like and pull away from what we don’t. Touching is about as close as you can get when showing comfort level. So, if he touches you, even casually, it’s a sign that he’s comfortable with you and maybe even attracted.
If that touch is more intimate, like putting his arm around you or giving you a massage, then it probably indicates some romantic interest. If he kisses you, tries to hold your hand, etc. then he definitely has attraction to you. This is the most obvious sign you can get!
5. Tries To Impress You
When I was in university, I went on a class retreat with a large group. We had one guy who clearly liked one of the girls. He talked to her non-stop the entire weekend, trying to be funny and clever, impressing her with his alleged wit and charm. Granted, she didn’t say much in return. But, we all knew it was a sign he liked her, even if he tried to play it cool.
Yes, I know it’s kind of immature and a throwback to junior high. But, if a guy tries to impress you, it’s a good sign he likes you. But, instead of eating bugs or mastering the monkey bars, he tries to win you over with his fancy car, nice job, excellent physique, social status, and anything else he thinks you’ll appreciate.
Many guys especially will use humor to try to impress you. Trust me, as a guy, there is nothing more gratifying than getting a girl to laugh at your jokes! Even if he’s trying to hide his true feelings, if he tries to impress you regularly, he really likes you.
6. Shows You Attention
My twin brother David and I have a saying we teach our relationship and dating clients: people pay attention to what they like. In others words, men and women direct their energy and time towards what they truly value. So, if you want to know signs a guy likes you, but is trying not to show it, look at how he spends his time.
If he gives his time and attention to multiple women, his hobbies, and other endeavors, while you get his scraps, he probably doesn’t like you romantically. If however, he gives you his best time and attention, then it’s a great sign he likes you.
A few examples of getting his best attention are: he drops his other plans for you, he always responds to texts quickly and consistently (if he isn’t busy), he seems genuinely interested in your life, and you’re his first choice among his female friends and acquaintances.
If a guy is showing you an extreme level of attention, even over text and social media, he’s definitely into you in a special way. Granted, he could see you as a really good friend. But, if there isn’t another woman in the picture, he almost certainly likes you as more than a friend.
So, these signs should help you determine if a man in your life has greater feelings for you than he wants to admit. Many guys hold back for fear of commitment, shyness, or just to play it cool or hard to get. But, if you look at the signs, you can determine his true feelings.
Originally Published on thepopularman.com by About Jonathan Bennett